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Gay Men Going Deeper

Raw, real conversations on personal development, mental health, and sexuality — from an unapologetically gay perspective. Co-hosted with Matt Landsiedel. New episodes weekly.

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Busy, Stimulated, and Disconnected: Gay Men & Escapism
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April 16, 2026 · Episode 286

Busy, Stimulated, and Disconnected: Gay Men & Escapism

What if the things you turn to for fun, pleasure, and productivity are also the ways you avoid your life? In this episode, we explore escapism through a grounded, real-world lens. Not necessarily as a clinical issue,…

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Let’s Play! When Did Life Stop Being Fun?
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Ep. 285/Apr 2, 2026

Let’s Play! When Did Life Stop Being Fun?

At what point did life stop being fun? As kids, play came naturally. We were curious, spontaneous, and fully present. But for many adults, especially gay men who grew up navigating shame and self-consciousness, play s…

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Masc for Masc: Preference or Internalized Homophobia?
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Ep. 284/Mar 26, 2026

Masc for Masc: Preference or Internalized Homophobia?

When a gay man says he’s attracted to masculine men, is that simply preference… or could internalized homophobia be part of the story? In this episode, we unpack one of the most volatile conversations in the gay commu…

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Flakey Gays: Why is Follow-Through So Hard?
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Ep. 283/Mar 19, 2026

Flakey Gays: Why is Follow-Through So Hard?

The guy who constantly cancels plans, keeps things vague, or disappears when something better comes along — that’s flakiness: a pattern of not following through. In a culture of endless options and shifting feelings,…

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Is Being Gay Your Entire Identity? (The Hidden Cost of Over-Identification)
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Ep. 282/Mar 12, 2026

Is Being Gay Your Entire Identity? (The Hidden Cost of Over-Identification)

What does it actually mean to identify as gay? For many of us, claiming the word “gay” was liberating. It gave us language, belonging, community, and pride. It helped us make sense of our experiences and find people w…

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Is Romance Dead in Gay Culture?
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Ep. 281/Mar 5, 2026

Is Romance Dead in Gay Culture?

In a world of swipes, situationships, and high-intensity connections, romance can start to feel obsolete — replaced by sexual energy, emotional guardedness, or the safety of detachment. And yet many of us still long f…

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Sexual Authenticity: Owning Your Desires
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Ep. 280/Feb 26, 2026

Sexual Authenticity: Owning Your Desires

Being sexually open isn't the same as being sexually honest. In a culture that celebrates sex, many gay men still struggle to feel aligned with what they truly want, without shame or pressure. In this off-the-cuff con…

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The Body Count Dilemma: Why Gay Men Can’t Win
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Ep. 279/Feb 19, 2026

The Body Count Dilemma: Why Gay Men Can’t Win

In gay culture, “body count” refers to how many people you’ve slept with. And whether it’s high or low, it often feels like a no-win situation. Have a low body count and you risk being seen as repressed, inexperienced…

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Why So Many “Confident” Guys Are Secretly Insecure
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Ep. 278/Feb 12, 2026

Why So Many “Confident” Guys Are Secretly Insecure

Gay culture rewards visibility, desirability, and dominance, so a lot of what looks like confidence is actually performance under pressure. In this episode, we unpack the myths of self-confidence gay men inherit and w…

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The Slow Build in Romantic Relationships
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Ep. 277/Feb 5, 2026

The Slow Build in Romantic Relationships

Everyone says they want a “slow build” in dating… right up until chemistry hits and judgement leaves the building. In this off-the-cuff episode, we talk about why moving fast feels so intoxicating, what actually happe…

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