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Standards vs. Boundaries in Dating
January 8, 2026 · Episode 273 · 28 min

Standards vs. Boundaries in Dating

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest dating myths gay men love to repeat: “My standards are too high.” But sometimes the problem isn’t what you want, it’s what you allow. We get into the real differ…

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What we talk about

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest dating myths gay men love to repeat: “My standards are too high.” But sometimes the problem isn’t what you want, it’s what you allow.

We get into the real difference between standards and boundaries, why attraction wipes our memory clean, and how low boundaries quietly reveal your level of self-worth. If you’ve ever said you want emotional maturity but keep entertaining sexy chaos, this episode is going to sting a little (in a good way).

Some of the topics we cover in this episode are:

  • A clear explanation of standards vs boundaries (with examples)
  • Why our standards collapse the second a hot man gives you attention
  • How boundaries are actually a self-worth and self-respect practice
  • The “crumb diet” too many gay men settle for

Join us for this honest, relatable, and painfully accurate episode that might be the reset your dating life has been waiting for.

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